Dan,
I am a heterosexual woman who looks at almost every man in my line of sight. I have been known to stop in the middle of sentences when I see a particularly nice looking one.
With all that, when I went to Rome in 2000 for the first time, I don't remember if there even WERE any men, becuase the women there were so stunningly gorgeous that I couldn't take my eyes off of them. From all over the world, they were all different, and all exquisite.
In 2005 it was the same -- although I managed to look at and even meet some men that time -- and in 2006, it was the same as well.
You are absolutely right - women in Italy, and in other European countries I've been to, are much more likely to be beautiful, in shape, healthy.... and each time I travel out of the country I come home with the idea that women here in the States just don't seem to care as much about themselves.
Then I realize it's not that they don't CARE -- look at the billions of dollars each year spent on diets, weight loss clinics, surgery -- it's that for some reason, our popular culture for the most part just doesn't seem to promote healthy eating, care and pride in our bodies, or true mental health, either (which ties in a lot). I think also there's this thing about living in a culture that prides itself on excess, in all areas, that helps us overeat as well.
I'm not sure what the answer is, but I know that when I'm overseas I dress differently -- more sexily -- and I enjoy clothes a lot more. And, I look at women a lot, which ain't such a bad thing.
I agree about the men, too. Men overseas seem to have the same thing going on, while many here just don't seem to care.
Teresa